A river does not stop for a stone.

Not a single drop of my self worth is defined by your perception or acceptance of me. My body is a temple and I am the only priestess.
— Vendulka
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As women we are shaped from the minute we leave our mothers womb into believing that we exist for other's pleasure. As baby girls, we are told how beautiful we are. Boys are told how powerful they can be. Our parents are tricked into thinking that we must be defined as pink or blue with specific roles related to each. Dolls, cars, kitchen sets and superheroes all supposedly fall into either side of the spectrum. 

We are told that "boys will be boys" when they touch us in ways we don't like on the playground. We are told that we're bossy if we take leadership. We are tall poppies cut down before we even have a chance to grow.

We are pushed, prodded and moulded into being society's concept of a "cool girl" who takes no issue with anything that makes her feel lesser as a person, made to laugh off situations that make her uncomfortable.

This archetypal concept of women and what we are and what we are allowed to be is not harmonious with the path that we are meant to take. A tree will grow toward the light, and so should we. The fire in our bellies tells us we should be bold, challenge ideas, own our bodies and be proud of them. To take our sexuality by the reins and to not be apologetic for it. To be all that we can and want to be. We are not delicate china figurines to be placed on a decorative shelf. 

Something I'm sure you've heard of by now is the #metoo campaign. For those of you who may be unaware- it's a social media hashtag circulating where women have been sharing their stories of sexual harassment, or worse, assault.
The thing is, I don't know one single woman who hasn't experienced the above.
Not.
One.
The severity and frequency vary but every woman on this planet has an ever growing list of stories that send anger to my bones and shivers down my spine. 

Victim blaming is something that can be traced back to an age where we were still learning the alphabet -  
"Did you say something to stir him up?"
"You do look really pretty today"
"That skirt is a little short"
"He's only mean to you because he likes you"
This comes back to the toxic idea that boys will be boys, and girls must have been distracting them. It comes back to the idea that we exist to be looked at, to serve our male counterparts.

If we are to connect to our true life's purpose, and to achieve higher consciousness - society as a whole needs to start supporting girls on their journey to becoming strong women. 

So here's a shoutout to women. To our daughters, our sisters, mothers, grandmothers and those who have paved the path before us - Thank you. Our ability to keep growing after we are cut is not overlooked. 

To men who support us. Who water us and move us into the light - we appreciate you. We need you. 

We are rivers, continuously moving, ever changing in our ebbs and flows- and we will not stop for stones. 

 

 

Every day is a day in paradise - treat it like one.

"The mountains whispered my name.
Over and over till I could not resist.
So I walked,
I ran,
I jumped and climbed.
When I thought I couldn't take another step I focused-
And my feet carried me.
For if the mountains call-
And you do not run to them,
Why are you even alive?"
-Vendulka

 

I get angry when people tell me they can't do things. Can't and won't are two different things and a lot of the time we confuse them. Different people don't have the same priorities - and that's okay. But don't tell me you can't move to another country because you don't have money while you check Instagram on the latest Iphone. Don't tell me you can't chase your passions because you "aren't good enough". You just aren't dedicated enough. Don't tell me you don't have the time to climb mountains whilst you plan another night out with your mates where you get so fucked up that you can't function the next day.

Sit down and dedicate the hours and commit to honing your craft. Find the things that set your soul on fire and strive to achieve them. Always look to better yourself, offer everything you have and then some. 
Commit. Plan your next move and follow through.

I may have only lived 19 years on this earth but something I've become frustrated with in my time here is people who settle. In jobs, in relationships, in places. You shouldn't settle for a job you hate because it pays the bills. Everyone starts somewhere, and there has to be food on the table but work toward a goal. If working toward that goal means working a shitty job - by all means do what you have to. Just don't get stuck for the next 5, 10, 20 years doing the same thing.

Don't settle for someone because they're nice enough, cute enough and they have a decent enough job. People aren't computers that need to function in certain ways. You can tick all the boxes and still not have chemistry. We are lovers, creators and artists. Find someone who pushes you, challenges you and brings you a higher love within yourself. Someone who doesn't want to change fundamentally who you are - but is willing to call you out on your bullshit. Someone who sees your strengths, weaknesses and everything in between and says "You're an adventure I want to take."
If you have a spark with someone, light the fire and see where it takes you. Some fires burn short, some burn forever. You can't expect to experience true connection if you only offer a section of your soul. It's terrifying but it's human and it's real.

Some days I feel like I may have already lived 5 lifetimes - but if we are only given one, should we not want to experience everything in its fullest potential? In all its glory?

Love. Love first, love always. Love until your heart breaks, heals and breaks again. Everything we do is to feel something - so don't deny yourself the opportunity by settling for someone or something that doesn't offer more or match what you can give in return. 

Love first, ask questions later.